Objatie is a little game for two. Each of you quietly sets what you really want from a relationship — and then you reveal it together, card by card. At the end you see where you click and where your ideas differ a little. No right or wrong answers. Just an honest conversation that's sometimes hard to start.
For couples who've been together for years, and for two people who are just getting to know each other — whether on a date or through an app. You don't have to be a “serious relationship”. If you're curious how closely your relationship ideas meet, it's exactly for you. It's more about curiosity and openness than judgement.
First you pick where the two of you are — the start differs a little:
💘 "Just getting to know each other"
Answer a few questions and you get a short link. Send it to anyone — even to several people at once. Whoever opens it fills in their own side, and you both see how closely you match.
💞 "Together for a while"
Fill in your own expectations and send the link to your partner. Once they fill theirs in, you reveal your cards together, one by one — calmly, no percentages, no scoring.
Either way, everything stays hidden until you choose to reveal it together.
Which path is mine — getting to know, or together?
If you're just getting to know someone (say on a dating app), pick “just getting to know each other” — you get a link to send to whoever you like, and each person fills in their own side. If you've been a couple for a while, pick “together for a while” — you both fill it in and reveal it calmly, side by side, no scoring.
Do we have to be a couple?
No. Even on a third date is fine. It's a great way to talk openly about things that are otherwise harder to bring up.
Does the other person see my answers right away?
No. Everything stays hidden until you choose to reveal it in the game. You see the other person's value only once you reveal yours.
How long does it take?
A few minutes to fill in, the rest is the fun of revealing — as much time as you give it.
Is it some kind of test or diagnosis?
No. Objatie is not a psychological test or professional advice. It's a game that helps start a conversation. Nothing more, nothing less.
What's the AI companion?
An optional assistant: after the game it writes a warm comment on your result, and you can chat with it about your relationship — like a friend who doesn't judge, not a therapist or professional advice. Your messages and a rough summary of your result (no sensitive topics, never your exact answers) go to an AI provider (Anthropic, USA) only to write the reply, with your separate consent. On anything serious it points you to real help.
Do you use cookies or measure traffic?
Only with your consent. Analytics (Google Analytics) stays off until you accept it in the small cookie bar — declining changes nothing about how the app works. Technical cookies needed for login and language always run. Details in the Privacy notice.
What happens to my data?
We take it seriously. Read our Privacy notice.
No credit card. No catch. Just a bit more comfort.
Your own dashboard
All your comparisons in one place — saved, sorted, always to hand.
Your card — one link, many people
Create a shareable link to your expectations and send it to as many people as you like (great for dating apps). Each person gets their own private comparison with you.
Private labels & notes
Add a private note to any comparison — encrypted, visible only to you.
Export & erasure on demand
Download all your data or delete your account at any time. GDPR, no drama.
Objatie and its questions were inspired by the idea of relationship anarchy — that relationships have no single right script or preset hierarchy, and that each relationship is defined by the two people in it, by what they actually want. More in this essay on aeon.co.
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